time to go yet?
Posted: October 29, 2011 Filed under: postaday2011, Response to Prompt | Tags: culture codes, leave taking, non-verbal communication, postaday2011 Leave a comment »Today’s prompt is fun: How do you know when it is time to go?
It is fun because it involves analyzing nonverbal communication, cultural codes and other culture’s signals that we usually use subconsciously.
Nonverbal first. A sense of restless activity–jiggling feet, shifting positions. Maybe even a gathering up of coffee cups/drink glasses. In extreme cases, yawns and glances at watches. Children pick up cues. I remember when visiting and the girls (age 2,4) were playing with other children while I visited with their parents, when I would say it is time to go they would do nothing. I don’t remember if they verbalized it or I just noticed. They ignored me unless I was standing up when I said it. On the adult level, there are responses to the “It’s time to go” comment–some invite to stay and some agree, with varying degrees of directness.
Cultural codes include coded language: I don’t want to take up any more of your time. Usually on the phone, but sometimes in a face to face conversation. For years my next move was to assure the speaker that I had more time! Then in a pragmatics class I learned that it was a pre-leavetaking move!
Other cultural signals: Other people leave. Not the first one or two who leave early–they probably have somewhere else to go. But there comes a time when the critical mass get up to get their coats. Unless one is in the inner circle, that it the time to get your coat too. But the inner circle, they get to stay and talk about the success or failure of the party. But woe to the person who thinks they are in the inner circle when they are not. To avoid this error, watch for the nonverbal signs already discussed.
And of course this applies to US culture. I remember being told as I offered coffee to my guests that there are some cultures where that is a signal that it is time to go! We started imagining the clash when a US person, used to lingering over coffee offered it and the visitor took it as a too early signal to leave. Lots of potential for misunderstanding there.
What makes someone beautiful?
Posted: October 28, 2011 Filed under: beauty, identity, popular culture, Response to Prompt | Tags: advertisements, postaday2011 Leave a comment »A very timely prompt because I just watched “Killing Us Softly 4,” a study of the effects of advertising, mostly on women.
Two preliminary details: Only 8% of the content of an advertisement affects us consciously; the other 92% is subconscious. Repetition and cumulative effects of the 92% are more profound than the 8%. And after forty years, the advertisements are showing women yet thinner and fashion designers send samples in the new size 0 or 00, so magazines have to have smaller models. Only 5% of the population has the figure naturally that clothing is designed for. So that leaves a lot of women feeling inadequate, and that leads to poor self image, eating disorders, and depression.
Some European countries are now requiring advertisements to label photos that have been photoshopped. That is a respectable first step. It is time USA does the same.
Contrast beauty in the Renaissance, those nice full figures. What would it take to get back to that sense of beauty?
redefining post-a-day
Posted: October 24, 2011 Filed under: weather | Tags: Old Church, Portland, postaday2011 Leave a comment »Looks like I am not making the daily post goal. It is turning into post-if-prompt-prompts. Sometimes , with a little thought, an unlikely prompt gives me an idea to write about. Sometimes it doesn’t. So today I’ll just say the sun is shining in Portland–common for October, I am told. I haven’t been here for the rainy season yet and really need to get some rain wear to be ready. I do, of course, have umbrellas. Although I have heard that “real ” Portlanders don’t use umbrellas, I see a lot of them when I am out. And at Old Church they like to tell about the umbrella racks built in at the back; I think they said there is even a drain. I keep forgetting to look. But I do go to attend the free noon concerts quite often. So maybe some day I will look. And maybe someday I will take the picture of the gorgeous pipe organ. It is good that such a building and organ was preserved!
Last word?
Posted: October 21, 2011 Filed under: Response to Prompt | Tags: effective discussion, last word, postaday2011 Leave a comment »Ah at last a prompt that prompts my thoughts.
However, I will modify it to whether I prefer the first or last word in a DISCUSSION. An argument is something that someone wants to win, or at least end up getting their way, and last word may be meaningful there. Though it may not, for there is the walk-away response that leaves one with a last word, but a silence that is louder and more effective.
But shifting to discussion. Nothing is more deadly than a last word. A “last word” type comment has the potential to close off discussion as if there is nothing more to be thought or said. More ideal is a comment that both answers and opens the way for more reflection, more exploration. For the first solutions are not always the best; however, we tend to stop thinking.
I am reminded of brainstorming exercises on the uses of a brick. Stop after five or so and you have only ordinary uses. Creativity happens when you forge ahead, forcing yourself to add and add and add. Either a time limit or a number of entries goal can prompt continued exploration.
In discussion groups, I especially value a leader who can probe beyond apparently final answers to keep the thinking going. It is not a skill I have; I wonder if it is a skill that can be developed.
missed yesterday check other blog today
Posted: October 13, 2011 Filed under: referral | Tags: homeless, postaday2011 Leave a comment »I missed yesterday; it was a combination of a blank wall at the prompt and not enough time to get beyond it; today I want to write on homelessness and it will be on the knitnkwilt blog where i ponder life as well as progress on projects
new libraries
Posted: October 12, 2011 Filed under: library, technology | Tags: library access, postaday2011 Leave a comment »I have spent several hours learning my way through a new library’s online catalog, database, and means to download articles I want. No, not a brand new library, but one new to me.
Interestingly, once I found an article I really wanted to read, and clicked on the link, the link led to a different article. I retraced my steps and , yes, i was at the right place and clicked the right link. I got the same wrong article. I planned to report it to the desk so they could report it to the database owners who might be able to repair it. Meanwhile, I went searching for the paper copy (remember how to do that?). Only when I got there, the year that held my article was missing.
Just for kicks I tried the online version of the journal. And lo, this time the link pulled up the right article. Go figure! Glad I tried again before reporting it…that would have felt stupid having it work when reporting.
I expected to be able to email them to myself, and on some databases, I could. But not on all. There seems to be an account where I can save articles to, but they didn’t save. Luckily I had my flash drive with me and put them on it.
Here is what is really annoying. An article I really want is available online, but not where I am enrolled to audit a course. The journal is an online journal. In my previous experience, Interlibrary loan departments are not allowed to lend copies of journals that their library holds only electronically. It is a major loss we have of access to information with the shift from print to electronic publishing because copyright could be paid and copies made the old, the print, way. Now contracts apply and one cannot get them.
pushed
Posted: October 11, 2011 Filed under: Response to Prompt, writing process | Tags: afraid to write about, postaday2011 1 Comment »Today is a day I’d probably not write without a prompt…and the prompt isn’t prompting me much. I’m not sure how much longer I will last on this post-a-day thing.
Today’s prompt: five things you are afraid to write about. I first took it to apply to blogs, but someone applied it to professional writing…made more sense there.
1. I would be afraid to write about real people, afraid I had not disguised them enough
2. I would find it hard to believe I had enough evidence to write about a medical treatment different from the mainstream
Don’t think I will get up to five on short notice. Maybe I’ll come back and edit or maybe I’ll just do a new post if I think of more
When oh when will I remember to put categories and tags on before I publish…always one edit!
check my other blog
Posted: October 10, 2011 Filed under: Uncategorized | Tags: postaday2011 Leave a comment »I did write today, but not to a prompt. So you will find it at http://knitnkwilt.wordpress.com
