How do I know when I am wrong…right…

Since I have been at a quilt show for the past several days, I have not been near a computer. And I never uploaded the app to post from my phone…so belatedly I found the prompt: How do you know when you are wrong? And its partner, How do you know when you are right?  I am combining them.

My first reaction is that I am never wrong, so how would I know the signs?

My second reaction is to ponder the seemingly closed circuit: Our worldview creates our values; our values strongly influence what detail we attend to and what we overlook. Seems pretty self fulfilling here.

On rare occasion we let a stray contradictory thought in and it creates a little cognitive dissonance. The easiest way to deal with that is to deny it, so we often promptly forget it.  The next easiest thing is to explain it away, a common approach.  How many exceptions do there have to be before exceptions no longer prove the rule?

Of course the rarest response is to change the worldview to accord with the conflicting data that has been allowed in. And I wonder how those giants who changed worldviews did it.  This thought is near the “top” because I just heard a reading from A More Perfect Heaven, a book about Copernicus by Dava Sobel at Powell’s Books. And before that a book discussion group had chosen to read The Reluctant Mr. Darwin.  Both were very cautious about going public. Both added data upon data to be sure. Still there was the fear of the consequences since their findings went against the powerful church worldview for Copernicus. For Darwin it involved church and family beliefs, but he no longer would have feared excommunication. Both knew they were challenging thee roots of current beliefs.

A first approximation at an answer would be a critical mass of data contradicts the held position.  That critical mass both says that if I continue in the dominant view, I  would be wrong, and that I am right to question it. Thus it looks like science is the way to know when I am right and when I am wrong. And that suggests the peer review is the means.  But which peers? The ones in the old perspective or ones willing to shift?

Years ago I read Even the Rat Was White. For years “science” had proved the superiority of the white race. Then science disproved the racist science.  One way was to show the irrelevance of some of the accumulated measurements. So data alone is not enough.  Peer review alone was not enough. Challenging not only conclusions but challenging the questions, finding better questions–this leads to sorting the right from the wrong.  And it takes guts to shift the question as well as to shift the construction made from the answers.

So long as I allow no alternate questions or versions into my thinking, I will know I am right. Once I let them in, I will entertain the possibility of being wrong, maybe even of finding out that the worldview I had been operating in is also wrong.

 


time to go yet?

Today’s prompt is fun: How do you know when it is time to go?

It is fun because it involves analyzing nonverbal communication, cultural codes and other culture’s signals that we usually use subconsciously.

Nonverbal first.  A sense of restless activity–jiggling feet, shifting positions. Maybe even a gathering up of coffee cups/drink glasses. In extreme cases, yawns and glances at watches. Children pick up cues. I remember when visiting and the girls (age 2,4) were playing with other children while I visited with their parents, when I would say it is time to go they would do nothing.  I don’t remember if they verbalized it or I just noticed. They ignored me unless I was standing up when I said it. On the adult level, there are responses to the “It’s time to go” comment–some invite to stay and some agree, with varying degrees of directness.

Cultural codes include coded language: I don’t want to take up any more of your time.  Usually on the phone, but sometimes in a face to face conversation.  For years my next move was to assure the speaker that I had more time! Then in a pragmatics class I learned that it was a pre-leavetaking move!

Other cultural signals: Other people leave. Not the first one or two who leave early–they probably have somewhere else to go. But there comes a time when the critical mass get up to get their coats.  Unless one is in the inner circle, that it the time to get your coat too. But the inner circle, they get to stay and talk about the success or failure of the party. But woe to the person who thinks they are in the inner circle when they are not. To avoid this error, watch for the nonverbal signs already discussed.

And of course this applies to US culture.  I remember being told as I offered coffee to my guests that there are some cultures where that is a signal that it is time to go! We started imagining the clash when  a US person, used to lingering over coffee offered it and the visitor took it as a too early signal to leave. Lots of potential for misunderstanding there.


What makes someone beautiful?

A very timely prompt because I just watched “Killing Us Softly 4,” a study of the effects of advertising, mostly on women.

Two preliminary details: Only 8% of the content of an advertisement affects us consciously; the other 92% is subconscious.  Repetition and cumulative effects of the 92% are more profound than the 8%. And  after forty years, the advertisements are showing women yet thinner and fashion designers send samples in the new size 0 or 00, so magazines have to have smaller models.  Only 5% of the population has the figure naturally that clothing is designed for. So that leaves a lot of women feeling inadequate, and that leads to poor self image, eating disorders, and depression.

Some European countries are now requiring advertisements to label photos that have been photoshopped. That is a respectable first step.  It is time USA does the same.

Contrast beauty in the Renaissance, those nice full figures. What would it take to get back to that sense of beauty?

 

 


redefining post-a-day

Looks like I am not making the daily post goal.  It is turning into post-if-prompt-prompts.  Sometimes , with a little thought, an unlikely prompt gives me an idea to write about. Sometimes it doesn’t. So today I’ll just say the sun is shining in Portland–common for October, I am told.  I haven’t been here for the rainy season yet and really need to get some rain wear to be ready. I do, of course, have umbrellas. Although I have heard that “real ” Portlanders don’t use umbrellas, I see a lot of them when I am out.  And at Old Church they like to tell about the umbrella racks built in at the back; I think they said there is even a drain.  I keep forgetting to look. But  I do go to attend the free noon concerts quite often. So maybe some day I will look. And maybe someday I will take the picture of the gorgeous pipe organ.  It is good that such a building and organ was preserved!


Last word?

Ah at last a prompt that prompts my thoughts.

However, I will modify it to whether I prefer the first or last word in a DISCUSSION. An argument is something that someone wants to win, or at least end up getting their way, and last word may be meaningful there. Though it may not, for there is the walk-away response that leaves one with a last word, but a silence that is louder and more effective.

But shifting to discussion. Nothing is more deadly than a last word.  A “last word” type comment has the potential to close off discussion as if there is nothing more to be thought or said. More ideal is a comment that both answers and opens the way for more reflection, more exploration.  For the first solutions are not always the best; however, we tend to stop thinking.

I am reminded of brainstorming exercises on the uses of a brick.  Stop after five or so and you have only ordinary uses. Creativity happens when you forge ahead, forcing yourself to add and add and add. Either a time limit or a number of entries goal can prompt continued exploration.

In discussion groups, I especially value a leader who can probe beyond apparently final answers to keep the thinking going. It is not a skill I have; I wonder if it is a skill that can be developed.


missed yesterday check other blog today

I missed yesterday; it was a combination of a blank wall at the prompt and not enough time to get beyond it; today I want to write on homelessness and it will be on the knitnkwilt blog where i ponder life as well as progress on projects


new libraries

I have spent several hours learning my way through a new library’s online catalog, database, and means to download articles I want.  No, not a brand new library, but one new to me.

Interestingly, once I found an article I really wanted to read, and clicked on the link, the link led to a different article.  I retraced my steps and , yes, i was at the right place and clicked the right link.   I got the same wrong article.  I planned to report it to the desk so they could report it to the database owners who might be able to repair it. Meanwhile, I went searching for the paper copy (remember how to do that?). Only when I got there, the year that held my article was missing.

Just for kicks I tried the online version of the journal. And lo, this time the link pulled up the right article. Go figure!  Glad I tried again before reporting it…that would have felt stupid having it work when reporting.

I expected to be able to email them to myself, and on some databases, I could.  But not on all. There seems to be an account  where I can save articles to, but they didn’t save.  Luckily I had my flash drive with me and put them on it.

Here is what is really annoying.  An article I really want is available online, but not where I am enrolled to audit a course.  The journal is an online journal. In my previous experience, Interlibrary loan departments are not allowed to lend copies of journals that their library holds only electronically. It is a major loss we have of access to information with the shift from print to electronic publishing because copyright could be paid and copies made the old, the print, way.  Now contracts apply and one cannot get them.


pushed

Today is a day I’d probably not write without a prompt…and the prompt isn’t prompting me much. I’m not sure how much longer I will last on this post-a-day thing.

Today’s prompt: five things you are afraid to write about.  I first took it to apply to blogs, but someone applied it to professional writing…made more sense there.

1. I would be afraid to write about real people, afraid I had not disguised them enough

2. I would find it hard to believe I had enough evidence to write about a medical treatment different from the mainstream

Don’t think I will get up to five on short notice.  Maybe I’ll come back and edit or maybe I’ll just do a new post if I think of more

When oh when will I remember to put categories and tags on before I publish…always one edit!


check my other blog

I did write today, but not to a prompt. So you will find it at http://knitnkwilt.wordpress.com


Is there a true self to stay true to?

It has been a long time since I have “believed in” an essential, unitary, unchanging self.   That which we call our self is a co-construction between us and society. Society has expectations. We live up to them or resist them or modify them.  When we  are faced by concepts of others for us there can be agreement and reinforcement. We can dress like all of our friends.  We can follow the styles promoted by fashion magazines. Or there can be clash and then the choice of  resistance or modification. We can design our own fashion and stray from both friends and magazines.  We can mix and match in our own way. Not fashion only, but similar interactions occur about behavior and attitudes.  Because all this interaction is part of “self” formation, our “self” is dynamic and changing.

If we are not careful, the “self” that resists is as dependent on society’s expectations as the “self “that follows expectations. I need someone to say “yes” so I can say “no.”  Better to be more proactive!

So rather than staying true to a “self,” I think the issue is more creating a “self” we can be proud of by striving to reinforce the good.


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